You may have heard that you get what you expect. Often our expectations go unexamined. We fail to pay attention to what we are thinking and fail to deliberately direct our thoughts in a way that serves us better. If you are experiencing something that does not please you, look at your current expectations about that subject and redirect them.
I did this process yesterday with my coaching practice. I love coaching and I feel it is what I am called to do. I have planted seeds in a lot of different ways over the last 5 months and have yet to yield even one paid client. So I examined my expectations, labeled them my “old expectations” and then created new ones. Old: It’s hard to make money as a coach. New: It is easy to make 6 figures as a coach. Many people do it and I can do it too. Old: It takes a long time to build up a client base. New: It’s easy to build a client base through attraction and referfals. Old: People won’t participate in a membership program. New: For many people a membership program is a perfect option that they will appreciate and participate in. Old: Self-employment income is unreliable. New: Self-employment income in unlimited. You get the idea.
Now it’s your turn. Write down one experience in your life right now that is not going the way you prefer. Then write down at least 10 current expectations or beliefs (same thing) that you have about this experience. Label these your Old Expectations. Write one or more New Expectation for each old one. Phrase the expectation in a way you believe it–it has been true for you or is true for others and could be true for you. Use words in the new expectation that make you feel good. Review the list of your new expectations often and focus on the feelings. Add to the list as more positive expectations occur to you.
You create your life, by default or deliberately. Take charge of your expectations and you will experience more of what you prefer in your life.