The ego or fearful self is not “bad,” it is contrast.  If everything in the world was tan and flat you could not discern shapes or experience the world.  Without dark you cannot know the experience of light. Without fear you cannot know the experience of peace.

Anything in your life that you push against or try to eradicate–fearful thoughts, negative people, unwanted circumstances–will simply get stronger or reappear elsewhere.  Instead of pushing against, bless the contrast that helps you know and experience what you do want. So what does that look like?  When you experience fear, say something like “I bless this feeling of fear in my stomach and I send it love and light.”  If you can, identify the specific emotion and where you are experiencing it in your body.

There will always be contrast, but you will move more quickly from what you don’t want to what you do want to experience if you bless what you don’t want and send it love. As you make peace with it there will be no more need to keep experiencing it because the memory will be enough to provide the contrast that allows you to now fully experience what you do want.  You don’t need someone or something to remove the thoughts or situations you don’t want. You remove them when you bless them and send them love.

Do you want more money and abundance in your life? Bless the feeling of lack in your stomach and send it love and light. Do you want more loving and supportive relationships? Bless the feeling of disappointment in your heart and send it love and light.  Do you want to be healthy and pain-free?  Bless the feeling of tightness in your head and send it love and light.

Imagine that a fearful thought or a crabby co-worker or a lack of money is just a frightened child. Ignoring it or telling it to go away just makes it more frightened and more determined to get your attention.  Imagine wrapping it in a warm hug, in your mind, and soothing it.  Feel the relief of blessing it and sending it light and love. Then say to yourself, “I appreciate the contrast. What is it that I do want?” Turn your attention to what you would prefer to experience, imagine it in great detail. Say to yourself, “I enjoy experiencing lavish prosperity” or “I enjoy experiencing the kindness of my mate.”

This is a major mindset shift for most people. If you are ready to hear this now, these words resonate with you. Let it provide you the relief you have been seeking. Let it help you experience more of what you want in your life.